Posted by Pascal on August 16, 2019 at 11:39
You already know being in a relationship can be difficult. This is true whether you are a man or a woman. Relationships can hold a lot of sway in how you feel, perceive and view yourself. On top of that, it can also affect how you view the world. For instance, when experiencing a bad day, everyone around you might seem difficult to deal with. The opposite is true. When you are unhappy with yourself, you might get the impression that your relationship is dysfunctional in one way or another. Such emotions can bring up feelings of imperfection. They can even lead you to believe you are the reason why your relationship is stalling. Just remember even if your feelings and thoughts are confusing, you don’t have to be led by them.
Truth be told, most if not all of them are inaccurate and don’t represent what you really feel. If you give them room to develop, you will end up using them as the basis for making important decisions related to your relationship. Unfortunately, this has the potential to ruin your relationship instead of nurturing and helping it grow. Arguably some of the most important things in a relationship are being rational, understanding, and compassionate. And since this can not only be difficult but also overwhelming, here are a few tips to restore strength, compassion, respect, and confidence to yourself and your relationship, even in the face of situations beyond your control.
Love and compassion in life are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, relationships cannot exist, let alone thrive. The problem is, many of us have yet to learn the art of nurturing and cultivating healthy relationships. At one point or another, we all have made mistakes, expected too much or not asked for what we wanted in fear of retribution and destroying our relationships. Moreover, we’ve been suspicious, competitive, and even jealous at one point or another. Oftentimes, this puts our relationships at risk and threatens their existence and growth. Even so, all is not lost! We can always redeem our mistakes with honesty. Self-awareness is more important than perfection since perfection is a lofty, always out-of-reach goal, when in a relationship. After all, imperfections and mistakes are part of being human.
Everyone has personal needs. Yours could be going out with your friends on Thursday nights or taking a walk on your days off. If somebody else suggests activities that are at odds with your needs, you might be better off sticking with what your body and soul love. It does not mean you should never compromise for your loved ones but taking care of your needs first is vital. For your relationship to be successful, you must feel whole first so that the relationship itself can be complete.
When you and your partner start to get closer, boundaries can become porous. A relationship without boundaries leaves the possibility for one of the partners to manipulate the other. Regardless of who manipulates whom, this is never healthy for any relationship. It gives room for the other person to offend you without you having the energy to let them know how you feel about it. If you want people to treat you the way you want, you have to teach them. This implies that you have to respect and love yourself in such a way that you are fully aware of what you need.
When getting angry or frustrated, it can be very hard to calm down and take a step back before saying or doing something you will regret. However, you may have come to realize what we feel when emotional does not count for our true feelings. Initially, you might have a feeling of rage, fear, or even anger. However, once you’ve cooled down, you will surely realize it was an overreaction. When overpowered by strong emotions, sit down for some time and let the anger dissipate. It is imperative to observe your feelings before acting on them, less you end up destroying your beautiful relationship.
In any relationship there are several instances where you may feel vulnerable. For instance, feelings of vulnerability may be manifested when you express your romantic feelings to someone else, when you tell them about your past or when you admit you made a mistake. We usually fail to do these things in a bid to maintain power. Indeed, power gives us a chance to stay in control. We keep a tight lid on our emotions, feelings and image. At least that’s what we tell ourselves. Vulnerability, on the other hand, provides us with the opportunity to be real and authentic. Love is all about being your true self without living in constant fear of being judged. As the saying goes, when the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.
Whether you are already in love or the earlier stages of a relationship, it can be tricky to navigate the situation. There are several pitfalls and uphill battles to overcome. Even so, it doesn’t imply you can’t nurture and cultivate a healthy relationship with your partner or spouse. It calls for understanding, compassion, assertiveness, and realizing that we all make mistakes. Because human beings are subject to error. Therefore, as you get into this journey, don’t get in with expectations or demands of any sorts. The whole idea of a relationship is growing together. It means understanding each other as days go by. Since love is not a situation but a process, keeping an open mind will give your relationship the chance and room to blossom and grow.
And most importantly, don’t deny yourself for the sake of your relationship. If you have a pressing issue, talk it out with your companion. By so doing, you will be eliminating problems that can creep up later and destroy the very union you have been longing to have.