Meeting someone face-to-face after you've been talking to them online can be exciting and nerve-racking at the same time - a very odd combination. You probably want to make a good impression without coming off as a total weirdo. If you're new to the world of online dating, you're probably clueless as to how you can turn your first face-to-face meeting into a memorable date. You're probably unsure about what to do on your first date and how to make it a success
after chatting online.
You know you liked talking to each other online, but would the same be true once you see each other in the flesh? What if your date is the complete opposite of how they portrayed themselves online? When it comes to online dating, successes are equally likely as failures. It is only upon meeting face-to-face that you can decide whether you two are suitable for each other or not.
To help you with your face-to-face meetup, we've compiled a list of 7 effective ways you can make your first meeting a memorable date.
1. Keep Reasonable Expectations
Avoid going overboard and keep reasonable expectations. When you're talking to someone online, it is normal to fantasize about what they might be like in person. You automatically start assessing their personality through their chat messages, which can often lead you to developing a rather distorted image of your partner in your mind. You might end up over-estimating their charm and other qualities.
It is advisable to keep reasonable expectations on your first face-to-face meeting in online dating. Don't expect too much and avoid overthinking. Remember that to make this a memorable date, you need to able to enjoy yourself and if you're constantly analyzing your partner, it can get in the way of having fun.
2. Choose an Unconventional Place
Having a good time with your online date doesn't always mean you need to have a romantic setting. Think outside of the box, not just around the edges. Choose an unconventional place to meet up, say, a museum, an art gallery or a fancy jazz club. Choosing a public place that would also give you two the opportunity to open up and engage in an activity is a sure way to make your first offline interaction a memorable date.
Whenever possible, choose a location that would give you two the opportunity to engage in an activity. Research
suggests that couples who experience something thrilling or exciting together are much happier than those who don't. A lot of people in the world of online dating tend to get stuck up when it comes to making their date romantic. They tend to overlook the power of building intimacy through sharing experiences and making memories together. So be sure to choose an unconventional place for your first online date appointment.
3. Speak Your Mind
You're meeting each other face-to-face for the first time after chatting online, sometimes for a while. This is an opportunity to speak your mind and share your thoughts with each other. Don't be rude or disrespectful, but don't be afraid to show your charm either. Talk about your passions and things that interest you. Disagreeing with your date is perfectly okay as long as you don’t disrespect them. The important thing is to focus on communicating with each other and creating a comfortable space for both of you to open up.
4. Don't Forget the Art of Listening
If you want to make your first online dating appointment unforgettable, master the art of listening. Pay attention to what your dating partner is saying and give them a chance to express their thoughts without interruption. The conversation should be an interactive one where both of you get a chance to speak and be heard.
5. Be Present
A lot of people are concerned about what to do on their first online date. But the real question they should be asking is what things to avoid on their first date.
Being distracted is one of them. If you are using your phone on your first face-to-face meeting with your online date, you really shouldn't be surprised if things don't work out between you two. One guaranteed way to make a date romantic is by being present. Make sure you give your dating partner your full attention and listen to what they are saying. Listen to their stories and share your own! Be present and show interest in them to really make this online date unforgettable for you as well as for them.
6. Keep Your Manners in Check
Online dating can be a great way to find a romantic partner. But while it's fun to chat and flirt from behind a phone screen, leaving a good impression face-to-face can be challenging for some. And a simple trick to avoid coming off as a total creep is to keep your manners in check. If you're eating at a restaurant for your first online date, keep your table manners in check. It won't go unnoticed by your dating partner.
7. Be Yourself
Remember to be yourself. Don't try to impress your date by being someone you're not. That would come across as fake and unoriginal. Remember nobody can offer what you have to offer: your raw, original, authentic self. And nothing is more attractive than dating someone who is unapologetically themselves. Be confident in your demeanour and let your personality shine through.
Online dating can be really exciting and meeting face-to-face for the first time even more so. Remember to enjoy yourself and have fun and you'll surely have an unforgettable time at your first online date